Adult Friend Finder Review: King of Hookup Dating?

Founded in 1996 and operating globally, Adult Friend Finder is one of the world’s largest adult dating and casual hookup sites. It offers a range of specialist adult services targeted at everybody from horny housewives, to swingers, to shemales, and anybody who wants to get laid.

The site has over 339 million registered users worldwide and is loaded with both free and premium paid features.

In this Adult FriendFinder review, we will take a look at what makes AFF the most successful adult dating portal of all time. We’ll comb over its best features and packages, whilst checking out what you get with each membership option. Ready to hook up?

Adult Friend Finder Review: Hooking Up Made Easy

The Adult Friend Finder Review, December 2016

The Adult Friend Finder Review, December 2016

Adult Friend Finder is a descendent of one of the web’s very first dating platforms.

Founder Andrew Conru launched the world’s first online dating service, WebPersonals, in 1994 and, following its success, he set up a new venture in 1996, called

Intended as a social networking site where like-minded adults could get together via a shared interest, the site was a magnet for adults posting saucy pictures of themselves; Conru spotted the opportunity and acted on it, launching Adult Friend Finder a few months later.

With a tagline of ‘Hookup, Find Sex or Meet Someone Special Now’, the site is ranked as one of the US’s 100 most popular sites.

The site has gone through some troubles in its twenty years including a brief flirtation with bankruptcy in 2013 when parent company, Friend Finder Networks filed for Chapter 11 and, more recently, as a result of data breaches following a cyber attack. Since both negative news headlines, the company has regained financial control and is investing heavily in cyber defence systems.

Whatever the headlines, the site continues to attract new members and retain its huge following largely because of its dominance in the market coupled with attractive membership fees, great quality features and ease of usability.

Crucially, AFF has managed to attract one of the most important ingredients for success — actual women, yes ordinary women, looking to hook up.

Many of the Adult Friend Finder alternatives have resorted to hiring escorts or, in some cases, loading their sites with bots and auto-messengers.

The large and growing contingent of actual female users leverages a powerful network effect whereby men prefer to register here too; because, well, that’s why they’re there in the first place (in most cases):

For the women.

Adult FriendFinder has won several awards, including 2010 XBIZ Dating Program of the Year and the 2012 Best Adult Dating Site from the well-respected lifestyle and entertainment magazine website,

The site is renowned for being a popular place to hook up for free sex, a no strings attached rendezvous or just casual encounters; however, Adult Friend Finder has a good deal of success in creating networks for people seeking the same thrills.

The swinging community finds the site invaluable to connect with other couples whilst many people report finding regular fuck buddies through the site. On top of this, Adult Friend Finder also makes matches when it comes to online dating. Plenty of relationships (of all kinds) start on the site as one thing and become something more regular and solid.

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Well, check out some Adult Friend Finder reviews and you’ll find a shocking number of success stories that led to marriage! Holy shit, right?


The AFF management team are so confident that members will get laid using their site that they offer a three month free membership if you fail. All you have to do is follow their simple rules and they guarantee you some action.

Admittedly, these bold promises clash with some of the cringeworthy videos used to promote the site:

It’s not exactly pant-wetting in the sexy stakes, is it?!

Setting Up a Profile on AFF

The site is free to register and is a five step process which takes just a few minutes. You are required to:

  1. Register your specific interest for joining the site (man seeking woman, couples seeking couples etc)
  2. Confirm your date of birth and country of origin
  3. Create a username and password
  4. Confirm basics about your profile (race, body type, sexual orientation and marital status)
  5. Create a profile with and introduction

You are usually required to pass some kind of bot detection system before an authentication email is then sent to your registered address. By following the link sent you validate your free account.

AdultFriendFinder homepage review

The instantly recognisable Adult Friend Finder homepage. Gateway to the world’s largest sex and swinger community.


Adult Friend Finder offers a comprehensive range of ways to interact with other like-minded individuals. Granted, some of the methods require a paid membership but even with a standard profile you can access the popular chatrooms and community forums. Networking with other members is the fastest way to grow your reputation online, earn yourself some points (which can be redeemed for cash and other rewards) and get your profile in front of as many people as possible.

The site features live webcams that are broadcast by its members and are free to access on your standard membership (though Gold grants you unlimited access).

Rather perversely, one of the features AFF is proudest to promote is one that it doesn’t include in its product:


Adult Friend Finder member

Whether the site employs bots and auto-messengers is a subject of intense debate on various forums and AFF reviews. It’s possible, but you are certainly looking at one of the cleaner adult dating programs if this is your concern

What about fake profiles?

We’d count on there being plenty, but that’s a guarantee when you’re the world’s biggest hookup community. Whether the profiles are set up ‘in-house’, or by rogue users, it’s always wise to do due diligence before assuming the person you’re talking to is who they say they are…

(Especially on a site notorious for affairs.)

Whatever the case, there is no shortage of real members to start chatting to.

The search function allows you to find members who are located within your area and you can filter these to people who are online, broadcasting and by the date they joined. Further filters allow you to sort the results by age and other specific details.

The site offers enrolment in their patented ‘Sex Academy’ (in partnership with Penthouse) with a whole host of courses with videos on subjects such as ‘Amazing Anal Sex’, ‘Sensational Male Orgasms’ and ‘Meet More Women Online’. Courses cost just $4.95 each and offer a way to improve your sex life from the comfort of your own home.

With a Gold membership you can also access over 150,000 adult movies either to stream or download. Including classics as well as brand new releases the library is extensive and covers everything from BDSM to Hentai, hardcore to funny.

With your membership you can flirt virtually with other members including sending gifts, messages and tips.

If you only have a few moments to browse then you can play the ‘Hot or Not’ feature which, like other quickfire image based apps, let you give a thumbs up or down depending on the profile picture uploaded. Members you rate as hot will be added to your hotlist for browsing at a later stage. Likewise, if members hotlist you then you will be alerted and you can go from there with your flirtations.

Speaking of which, the site handily puts together lists for you so you don’t have to keep track of all your interactions. The My Stuff menu orders your contacts into lists of people who have flirted with you, hotlisted you, viewed you or sent you gifts. Conversely you can see lists of the members you have done the same to. This level of organisation makes using the site much easier and faster to remember who is who.

AFF Membership Packages

Standard membership is free but is limited to the features that you can access. Gold membership starts at $39.95 per month (payable monthly) or $19.95 per month (payable annually). You can also pay quarterly which works out at $26.95.

Gold membership compares with the free membership as follows:

FeaturesStandard MembershipGold Membership
Chat on IM & ChatroomsIncludedIncluded
Join Blogs & GroupsIncludedIncluded
Like Photos and VideosIncludedIncluded
Hotlist othersIncludedIncluded
Watch Live Members CamsLimitedUnlimited
Send MessagesNot includedIncluded
Send FlirtsNot includedIncluded
Send Friend RequestsNot includedIncluded
Read Complete ProfilesNot includedIncluded
Watch VideosNot includedIncluded
View Full Size PhotosNot includedIncluded
Comment on Photos and VideosNot includedIncluded
Ad FreeNot includedIncluded

Additional services are available to upgrade to, including:

ServicesMonthly Fee3 Month FeeAnnual Fee
Standard Contacts$19.95$35.90$107.40
Profile Highlight$9.95$26.85n/a
Adult Movies$18.95$38.85n/a

The standard contacts upgrade allows all free members to contact you and view your full profile without requiring a membership. Highlighting your profile ensures that you stick out from the crowd whilst the adult movie features gives you unlimited access to download and stream 1000s of full length adult movies many of which are featured in high definition.

Payment can be made using your credit card or you can arrange for a bank transfer, direct debit or check/money order. If you would prefer not to enter your payment details online then you can send this information by fax.

There is no question that premium members get more attention and not just from the guaranteed priority support team. However there are other ways to access the premium features without subscribing:

  • You can earn points by referring friends, creating blog posts, articles and commenting. Simple measures like confirming your ID, answering questions and updating your status will all rack up points you can use online. And, if you don’t fancy spending your points on the site, you can even redeem them for cash. 50,000 points will reward you with $100 whilst 1,000,000 points can earn you a cool $2000. Members must upload a valid W9/W8 form to qualify for this scheme.
  • You can earn member privileges if your profile is popular. If a certain number of people view your details within a rolling three day window then you can access up to 50 profiles extra.

Broadcasting on AFF

If you are interested in really getting in front of other members then you could consider broadcasting your own cam channel. Not only does this boost your popularity but it can earn you tips and gifts which you can exchange for rewards including cash.

Sexy member videos on AFF

As easy as switching on your webcam and mic, broadcasting can be done publicly or privately in your own unique chat room. The top broadcasters receiver tens of thousands of views each month and can make a pretty penny in rewards as well as getting plenty of attention.

The AFF Community

The site wouldn’t work half as well if it wasn’t for the strong online community that exists and is a reminder of the roots in social networking from whence Adult Friend Finder came.

Blogs, groups and chat rooms are all social areas where people share experiences, learn from each other and meet to socialize. Plenty more happens behind the scenes but without that initial contact in these group zones the site would be worse for it. Keen to promote the sense of community, the site runs regular contests to encourage interaction and there are plenty of rewards on offer for joining in.

The magazine feature is another free area of information and is put together by the members on the site to educate, inform and entertain. In this section of the site you can find everything from advice on dating safety to health and fitness articles, jokes and fun ‘fluff’ pieces as well as saucy and erotic confessions.

There’s also an active AFF Tumblr when you can get the low down on special offers.

If you want to get the best experience from the site then don’t be a stranger to the rest of the gang. Get involved and consider upgrading to make sure you find the best adult friend you can.

Remember that Gold members get more action in a day than standard members get in a month!

Getting More Replies

If you’re struggling to get the most out of the service, or not getting replies, there are two things we can recommend:

Firstly, a good profile picture.

(It doesn’t have to be sexy, simmering, model-esque. But it shouldn’t look like a distorted Peeping Tom JPEG from the 1980s.)

If possible, add more than one photo in a different context. For the love of God, no multiple selfies. A mix of photos helps to prove that you’re not an unsightly oddjob who got lucky with one good pic.

Secondly, learn how to send a good opening message.

You have about 1.7 seconds to prove that you’re not a complete weirdo in the eyes of few ‘normal’ women scouting out potential lays on AFF.

Our Adult Friend Finder Verdict

AFF is rich with features that would rival any traditional dating site, but it’s the gender balance that makes this one of the standout adult dating sites.

Simply put, if you are a man seeking a woman… it helps if the site has plenty of women available.


Whilst many of the AFF pretenders fail on this count — no doubt in part thanks to the horrific branding where terms like sluts and whores are commonplace on the registration page — Adult FriendFinder remains one of the few portals that is enjoyed by both men and women, not just men and escorts.

If you’re looking for a fuck buddy, it’s probably the most obvious place to start. Sign up a free profile and take a look.

Have you used Adult FriendFinder over the years? Have you found any fuck buddies or ‘casual encounters’ by using the site?

Let us know your user reviews, experiences and recommendations below.

1 Comment

  1. I joined AFF when I first went online in 2005, and to-date it has indeed provided the ONLY sex hookup I’ve had. I dated someone from Fetlife, but there was no sex-zing that day. I only stopped using it because I’m on so many other media–including Fetlife–and AFF is just too pricey. Now I have Grindr/Blendr/Tinder/Kik on my not-very-smartphone.