It’s Getting Hot in Here: 11 Kinky Sex Ideas to Spice up Your Sex Life

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If your sex life is somewhat less than exciting–or worse, nonexistent, then we suggest you try out these kinky sex ideas that will truly light the fire in the bedroom (or even the kitchen counter). Put a few of these to work and your sex life will never be the same. 

The average adult has sex 54 times a year which is about once a week. If you’re looking to up that number while living out your wildest erotic fantasies then this is the article for you.

If you want to avoid settling for a virtual girlfriend, you’ll need to keep your woman happy and horny. Today we’re diving into 11 kinky sex ideas that will transform the way your partner sees you. 



Grab your blindfold, we’re getting started. 

Make Your Sexual Fantasy Come True with These 11 Kinky Sex Ideas

We can’t promise that you won’t stop halfway through reading this list before trying some out for yourself. Just a fair warning, these kinky fetishes may result in your partner becoming obsessed with your body and how you use it.

1. Table for Two

Transform just another dinner date into an unforgettable night to remember. We guarantee you won’t make it past the first course before you need to head out to the car and steam up the windows a bit. 

It’s in your best interest to do a little scouting ahead of time for places that are dimly lit, with long tablecloths, or secluded booths. Demand your partner wears her shortest dress.

Get close to your partner and start setting the mood with vanilla rubbing, brushing of her hair, rubbing her back and thighs. Feed her the appetizer. We promise she’ll get the hint that you’re up to something. 

If you’re feeling particularly dominant, order her to go to the bathroom and hand you her panties. Major points if she can take them off right then and there without anyone noticing. 

When no ones looking, begin reaching up her skirt. Warn her if she makes a noise or pulls a face there will be serious consequences when you get back to the car. See how far you can take it before asking for to-go boxes. 

2. Avoid the Bedroom

The best kind of sex is unpredictable (and consensual). Bringing your partner to the bedroom is so cliché. Where in your house haven’t you christened yet?

For the next week or two, challenge your partner to have sex anywhere and everywhere but the bedroom. Absolutely no repeats! 

If you’re planning on putting #1 to work, then the car is the best place to try it out. If you don’t have tinted windows, be sure to find a somewhat empty parking lot unless you like the excitement of potentially getting caught. A little exhibitionism can be hot. 

Need some other ideas? Check out some of our favorite places to bone: 

  • Kitchen counters/table
  • An empty room at a party 
  • Park at night
  • Hiking trail
  • Your backyard 
  • On top of the washing machine
  • Movie theater (great for blow jobs)
  • Balcony of a hotel or pressed against glass windows 
  • Library 
  • The beach at night

Make some new erotic memories and you’ll never think of your bar’s bathroom the same again. 

3. Punishments and Rewards

A fun way to role play and excite your partner in the bedroom is to unleash your dominant side (or even your submissive side if you want to turn the tables)! 

Before playtime starts you can set some rules like no noise, addressing you as sir, or no using their hands. 

If they break the rules you can instill some kinky punishments. 

Here are some ideas for punishments: 

  • spanking
  • no kissing
  • no speaking
  • addressing
  • facial

But if they behave well and please you, you can reward them.

Here are some fun rewards: 

  • choice of position
  • 15 seconds of oral 
  • 1 minute of penetration
  • back massage 
  • lifting of the rule(s)

Before any kind of BDSM play, make sure you have a safe word or use the green/yellow/red system

4. Grab Tools from the Kitchen

Is your partner into spankings?  Move up from hand spankings to something a little more creative. There’s no need to go out and spring for expensive paddles or floggers.

Start cheap and easy with things found around your kitchen. Items like cutting boards, spatulas, and oven mitts can spice up any sex routine.

Better yet, ask your partner to grab 10 different objects in varying texture, weights, and materials for spankings. Pick your favorites and watch them squeal in pain/pleasure. 

Always practice safe spanking to avoid emotional and physical distress. Always avoid critical areas like kidneys and the spine. Refresh yourself on the ins and outs of safe spanking with this guide

5. Sext Them

Boring day at the office? Start building the suspense for the night to come by sending flirty sext messages while they’re at work, at the gym, or running errands. 

You can play the game “what would you do if ____” and take turns creating erotic fantasies that you’ll be dying to live out the second you reconnect. 

Don’t forget that a picture is worth a thousand words. A tasteful snap of your cock throbbing through your work trousers with the simple caption “this is what you do to me” will cause her to daydream about you all day, we promise. 

6. No Touching Game

This rule is sure to drive you both crazy and up the suspense of sex. See how long you can last without touching each other. The first person to cave loses (see punishments and rewards).

You can make this challenge even more difficult by watching porn together. Want to win?

Start masturbating while looking at into their eyes telling them how you wish it was their tongue. Keep teasing and baiting them into making the first move. 

7. Meet Me in Room 1301 at 8pm 

….and don’t be late. 

This one is perfect for an anniversary or birthday surprise. Book a hotel room for you and your love but don’t tell them. Just leave them the key with a posted note stating the room number and a time. 

If you really want to be romantic (or dominant) you can pick out their outfit or make demands like wear this trench coat and hells but nothing else. 

Get to the hotel room early and set it up with candles, toys, music, and chilled drinks. An ice bucket can come in handy, especially if you’re planning on sensory play. 

8. Toys Aren’t Just for Children 

Whether you’re an expert in sex toys or have never started there is always going to be something you haven’t tried before. 

Have a conversation with your partner about what they’ve always wanted to try or get. Buy it for them and surprise them with it at your next play session. 

Things like vibrators and cock rings are fun starter toys before you work your way up to butt plugs and nipple clamps. 

If you’re really feeling wild, introduce these toys outside of the bedroom. Your woman will go wild wearing ben wa balls out to dinner or a buttplug at the bar. The dirty secret you two will have will cause an insane amount of anticipation for the night to come. 

9. Rethink the Blindfold 

“Use a blindfold”, you’ve heard it a million times before but let’s kick it up a notch. It’s not really about the blindfold, but more about what do you when it’s on. 

The worst (or best) part about blindfolds is the suspense it breeds, especially since you have no idea what’s going on. Playfully threaten them to sit still then walk out the room. 

Take your time finding toys, or rummaging through the kitchen to get spanking objects. The thrill of not knowing what you’re doing or where you went will have them dripping and begging by the time you come back. 

10. Sensory Deprivation

If you really want to torture your partner, keep the blindfold on and place headphones over their ears and play a sex playlist (when in doubt, play The Weeknd). 

Now that you’ve deprived them of two major senses, their remaining sense will be extremely heightened. Now’s the time to use fun things like warm oils or wax, lube, ice, silk scarves, feathers, and of course, anything you find from the kitchen.

Each touch will send electrical pulses through their body. Lick, nibble, bite, rub, pinch, and penetrate as you see fit. 

11. Next Level Restraint

Looking to up your sex game even further? Why not introduce restraints? These can be anything from your neckties to the sash to of robe.

Even if you don’t have a bed that allows you to tie her down to, you can get creative. Try tying her wrists together or her wrists to her ankles. You can even make a make-shift spreader bar by securing her legs to a broomstick which is perfect for forced oral orgasms.  

With sex of any kind remember to keep it safe and consensual. 

Get a Better Sex Life 

Try these kinky sex ideas out for yourself and get ready for your partner to worship you like the sex god that you are. 

If you’re looking to kick up your sex life, even more, check out this guide to America’s best adult entertainment. Who says you have to be in Vegas to experience the wild nightlife?



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