It’s Playtime: Here’s What You Can Expect from Your First Swinger Party

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Over 600,000 people live in Las Vegas and over 40 million visit it every year. So if you’re looking to swing, you’ve got plenty of people to do it with!

And why not? The swinger lifestyle has been popular in America since the 1960s.

It’s great if you’re single and looking for casual sex or if you and your partner are looking to spice things up. In fact, 90% of people said swinging helped to improve a relationship in trouble.



But attending your first ever swinger party can be nervewracking. There are a lot of misconceptions about what swinger parties involve. Fortunately, we’re here to help sort fact from fiction.

Read on to find out what you can expect from your first ever swinger party!

Finding Your First Swinger Party

Finding the right swingers club for you is really important and Las Vegas has a lot to offer.

There are two different ways to find swinging parties. You can either attend an event at a swinging club. Or you can get in touch with local swingers to attend their private parties.

Private parties often take place at one of the participant’s homes. They’re sometimes harder to find as people aren’t always open about being a part of the swingers life. Luckily there are some great apps to help you connect with fellow swingers.

For your first swingers party, a club or high-end venue is a good idea. So what is a swingers club?

Essentially, it’s a venue devoted to hosting sensual events. They are professionally run and offer a high-end experience in a beautiful setting.

It’s also easier to research swinger clubs. Each one might offer something different to suit you. Check out reviews of the best swingers clubs around to find the right one for you.

But you might have to wait a while. Popular swinger clubs have strict guidelines for membership and long wait lists. What we can promise, is that they’re worth the wait!

So once you’re in, what comes next?

Each Swingers Club Has Rules

Ok so maybe this isn’t the level of excitement you were expecting from a swinger party. But these rules create a safe foundation for everyone to have a great night!

Almost every swingers club or private party has a ban on phones or recording devices. The reason for this should be clear. What you do in the privacy of a swingers party doesn’t need to be broadcast elsewhere.

Different clubs might adhere to particular dress codes, although some don’t. Often a dress code relates to a theme for the night. For example, a BDSM party warrants a very particular dress code.

The most important thing though is to wear something you feel confident in. Swinger parties are all about you expressing and playing around with your sexuality. And confidence is key for this.

A lot of venues are BYOB. This means you’re welcome to bring your own alcohol in with you. This can be an important social lubricant.

But be careful not to overdo it when attending a party. It might be tempting to use alcohol as a crutch. You don’t want to end up tapping out early, or worse, having someone kick you out for being drunk!

A Swingers Party Isn’t an Orgy

Yes, there’s sex, but a swingers party isn’t about a pile of writhing, sweaty bodies. This isn’t ancient Rome.

An orgy involves a big group of people having sex with one another. In contrast, swinging involves lots of little groups ‘playing’ with one another.

In fact, some people at swingers parties don’t actually end up having sex. Enjoying the voyeurism of watching other people can be enough.

Some couples go with one another and have sex while others watch. They don’t actually ‘play’ with anyone else while they’re there. Or some join in with casual ‘play’ rather than full sex.

Some people walk around fully nude while others keep their clothes on.

It’s all about what people feel comfortable doing. Some people go on their own and are only interested in casual play. Others are looking for full sex.

Whatever it is you want, you’ll be sure to find it at a swingers party. And you might come away having tried something you didn’t expect to!

In fact, not expecting anything in particular is a great approach to swinging in general. You never know how the night is going to go.

Fortunately, the pleasure comes from the excitement of the place itself and the possibilities it offers. If you are open to this then you’re sure to have a great night.

Check Out Different Themed Swingers Parties

If you’re looking for something particular then check out different club’s themed nights.

This isn’t just about different sexual preferences or kinks. There’s a practical element to it as well.

For example, on couples night everyone attending has to bring a partner. This doesn’t have to be a long-term relationship.

However, clubs are also open to singles on certain nights. A couples’ night might also be open to single ladies, for example. This means the singletons can engage in play with the couples.

The same is true of single men’s nights. Singles nights are often carefully controlled by the club management. This is so that there is a good ratio of couples to singles to maximize everyone’s enjoyment.

It can be difficult for single men to get into swingers parties. This is especially true of clubs that cater to heterosexual couples. Having a recommendation from a club member can help you get in!

There’s a Room for Everyone

Each venue will offer a wide selection of sensual delights in different rooms.

You might want to spend the beginning of the night exploring the venue itself. This will give you a lay of the land. And it’s a great way to settle in and have a drink without feeling awkward.

You can also use this time to check out any couples that might interest you!

Some venues feature a dungeon. This is home to anything and everything bondage-related. If you’re looking for ball-gags and spanking paddles, this is your place!

Sensory rooms are great if you’re feeling a bit self-conscious but ready to explore. They are very dimly lit so all the exploration focuses on the other senses. If that’s not a turn on we don’t know what is.

You can also rest assured knowing that they’ll be plenty of sex toys. Venues place vibrators tactically so guests can experiment with them at their leisure. If you’ve never tried a sex swing, this is a great place to go for it!

And there’ll be plenty of soft furnishings for getting down to business on or around. The whole venue is specifically designed to enable pleasure. So make the most of it!

They’re Very Polite

The only way to properly enjoy casual sex is through a deep level of trust in and respect for those around you. When you step foot at a sex party you silently agree to this.

As a result, swinger parties are actually very polite. People communicate both by talking and by using clear signals.

You might strike up a casual conversation with someone at the bar or in the smoking area. They then might invite you to play with them. This gives you a great opportunity to express what you’re looking for and set any boundaries.

Or if you’re not interested you can just politely decline.

But in the heat of the moment, talking might be the last thing on your mind. In this case, you might want to invite someone to join you by holding out your hand. Eye contact is another thing people use to express their interest.

If someone wants to join you they might come and sit near you. This might be a bit off-putting, to begin with. But everyone at a swingers party understands the importance of one another’s boundaries.

You can turn people down by smiling and shaking your head. Or simply by walking away.

They Have Their Own Language

This language is a big part of the mutual respect. It can help you communicate with other couples. So it’s important to understand what someone might be asking you to do.

Here are some key phrases you might hear at a swingers party:

  • Play‘ is another word for any type of sexual activity. This might mean full sex or it could refer to oral sex or foreplay. It’s nice because it leaves the ‘play’ open to developing.
  • ‘hard swap is what happens when two partners swap with one another and have full penetrative sex.
  • ‘soft swap’ is when you swap partners with someone for play that doesn’t involve penetrative sex.
  • ‘unicorn’ is a single woman attending a sex party.

Some clubs use wristbands or color-coding to communicate what a person or couple is looking for.

If you feel at all confused during the party make sure to clarify things by asking someone. This can actually lead to great conversations and make you feel more relaxed. After all, anyone at a swingers club was a newbie once!

You Might Get Rejected, Don’t Worry About It

Everyone has different tastes that depend on a huge number of variables. And attending a swingers party doesn’t mean you’re happy to have sex with just anyone.

But this does mean that someone might reject you while you’re at a party. Or that you might have to reject them.

Don’t let it get you down. It happens to everyone and it isn’t personal. The beauty of a swingers party is there are plenty more fish in the sea.

The Bottom Line

Attending a swinger party for the first time is exciting for anyone whether you’re in a couple or not. So enjoy it!

Communicate well with your partners and others before, during and after. Know your boundaries but be open to exploring and you’re sure to have a great night.

For more tips on the swinger lifestyle, check our blog.



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